Since my divorce in 2005 I have been working on improving my life, especially on connecting with others, primarily women .
Since starting BravoPUA.com 3 years ago, I have learned more about teaching than all the previous years I was teaching Pick Up and Shooting, Knife Fighting, and Close Quarter Combat (since 2000) combined!
I’ve kept my PRIVATE “bootcamp” event PROJECT X off the PUA radar, because I wasn’t sure it would even work.
Living together with students, spending every hour with them for days downloading as much info as I can…hell I wasn’t even sure if they were going to like what I was teaching let alone if it would blow up in my face.
PROJECT X, where I hand select the guys who can attend from an inbox full of applicants and invite them to Arizona so we can all work together and leave with memories and knowledge that will last a life.
At the end of the first one, something awesome happened. We were all brothers at the end.
The BROTHERHOOD was something I was hoping might happen, but never dreamed it would develop into anything as awesome as it did.
Guys were loving their newfound PUA skills, texting me in the middle of the night about some crazy adventure they just were on, guys were travelling across the world to hang out with their PX brothers- INCLUDING ME!
Well during the last one- PX4, I had Cinema come out and film some of it for you guys, so you can get a better idea about me, what I am about, what and how I teach, how those who attend can be transformed, and the bonding we all experience at PROJECT X.
It is my HUGE fucking honor to show you this short film and let you know that now, after 3+ years, I have trained enough Coaches and Jr. Coaches to MY INSANELY HIGH STANDARD that we can now offer PROJECT X more often and accept more applicants!
So check out this video and let me know what you think.
I showed my mom this video and she didn’t like all the cussing and I don’t think she was fond of the student making out with a chick at the bar….
My dad asked me a while ago why don’t I advertise with “teaching nice guys how to meet nice women….or something like that” and I don’t think has ever believed what I do is a real job
but after watching this he said it was great and was proud of me
so be careful, from those two reactions, this will either finally make you love me or make you feel like I am an even bigger disappointment than before and you still can’t understand why I put so much of my life on the “interweb”
If you are ready to change your life, go to PROJECT X to apply and hopefully I will see you there.
I see it all the time online (my forum included) and then after I read the post I am left wondering where the shit test was, or even worse, reading something where the girl is making it clear as day that she is NOT interested in the guy but he takes it as a shit test(maybe because she was giving him “shit” when she told him to fuck off??)
So to get us both on the same page, think of a SHIT TEST as a CONGRUENCY TEST.
She is seeing if you are CONGRUENT with the confident vibe you are putting out there, if you really are the confident guy who (unlike most guys in there) had the balls to approach her, and she is seeing if you are man enough….to handle a woman like her.
If you are confident and congruent with what you are spitting, and not just using a few canned lines you got out of a book, it can actually be pretty easy to deal with.
NOTICE that I didn’t say “pass”.
I am not there to PASS her tests, I am talking to her to see if SHE is cool enough for ME. (part of my whole Alpha Male mindset )
So just like your job or any hobby you have, if someone asks you a few follow up questions you should be able to respond pretty easily to almost anything they say….because you have legit experience in that area and it is one with you.
Before I became “Bravo” the 2 ways I had to deal with this the most was with magic and my tactical background.
With the gun, knife, tactical teaching stuff- every guy who has served, studied martial arts, or was just into it would want to know HOW I got into it and who I had worked with. There are so many posers in this field, that guys still come up to me at PUA events and will resume check me.
-which I am 100% fine with….because I am congruent
The BIG area that this really came up with is with magic.
I was really into magic as a kid…but then one day some guys in school said it was dumb, so I stopped doing it. I was still REALLY into it, watched every special on TV there was, and would even do a few illusions during lunch breaks in my gun classes…to relax the vibe. But it wasn’t until I got into self help that I realized a life where I avoided things that I am into because someone that I don’t care about tells me they are lame= a shitty life. So I got back into, REALLY back into it, got pretty fucking good and for a long time magic was one of my PUA crutches. I would carry a few decks of cards on me at all times! But not because I always wanted to be ready, but because if I didn’t have them I wouldn’t be able to DHV, so wouldn’t be able to approach…oh man. It was however, AMAZING at helping me get good at dealing with people’s shit tests. Once you are able to control a large group, deal with guys giving you shit and trying to ruin it, deal with the drunk girl trying to take all of the attention= talking to a few girls is easy son!
So when I came across this vid, it instantly brought me back to some of the shit I had to deal with.
It’s for some new movie about stage magicians, the preview looked dumb, the kid in the video always gets me confused with the nerdy kid from Arrested Development, and to make it worse- the chick in the vid fucks up his shit and didn’t play along
AFTER SHE WAS THE ONE WHO ASKED HIM TO PERFORM
Now one thing I loved about this vid is the way he gave her the business right back. At the end when he really zings her with how he doesn’t want to find her, she even laughs at the end when she says he is “such a jerk”.
She doesn’t REALLY think he is a jerk!
-and even if she does, I would rather a woman have AN emotional reaction when interacting with me than NO reaction, it’s easier to turn a negative into a positive than a DEAD ZONE into a positive.
She clearly has an attitude….. which some guys love, and from my years of experience have a feeling that if a guy couldn’t handle a few of her smart ass remarks there would be ZERO chance she would ever become attracted to him.
Which this leads into something I teach called DEALING WITH RESISTANCE.
I teach there are 3 ways to deal with resistance, and this vid was a great example of 1 of the ways
FORCE vs FORCE
Think about Mike Tyson throwing a punch at your head. Even if you have done some boxing and have a good block, his punch is going to blast right thru you and still do damage.
-less than optimal response
Now think of a 5 year old kid throwing the exact same punch and you block exactly the same. You are going to avoid any damage AND also very likely, the kid is going to hurt their arm/fist on you.
In one instance it was the wrong move, and the other it worked out great. It all depends on who had the stronger force, and they ended up “winning”.
“those jeans are kind of gay”
“no they aren’t they are actually really cool”
“you walk around with a knife in your pocket”
“ya, it’s a great tool and I use it all the time”
See how it can be a fine line between qualifying, just matter of factly responding or like the punch a GREAT response?
One issue, like in the video, is that it is harder to LEAD the story somewhere else…you are just kind of left hanging with the person who’s frame/force was stronger to move on, which once you are good you can start thinking a few steps ahead of others. Also when dealing with people who out rank you (boss, cops, etc.), you maybe don’t want to do this because even if you “win” they can still trump you and fire you, or arrest you.
Dealing with force by meeting with force is definitely a way to deal with resistance…..but some times not the BEST way.
Especially for a guy who is working on improving his PUA skills, it can quickly turn into a pissing match.
If this resonates with any of you, let me know in the comments and I can make this a 3 part-er and cover the next 2 ways.
Hover Hand is an awkward photo pose in which the subject wraps an arm around a companion with their hand hovering away from the companion’s body. Often spotted in casual group photographs, hover hands usually signify that the person feels uncomfortable or lacks the confidence required to make physical contact.
Most of us have know about the cringe inducing HOVER HAND for a few years now, here are a few awesome/horrible examples=
Why do guys hover hand?
Because they are too scared to touch a girl!
But I learned something many years ago while watching TV late at night….. by myself….. when the GIRLS GONE WILD commercials played (besides the fact I could speed whack before it ended)
Chicks will actually do crazy shit that they normally wouldn’t do, if a camera is on them!
When I was first working on my PUA skills on the mean streets of Tempe, my wing and I came up with a plan. Each night one of us would carry the digital camera, remember this was before every cell phone had a decent camera and it took up a lot of room in your pockets. You can follow the same plan, just decide who is on camera duty with your cell phone each night.
Whoever had the camera was in charge of snapping a few good pics of the other guy when he noticed he was in a good set because
Pictures are a great reason for a guy to get close to a girl (when you are still in AFC land trying to justify getting close) and because it was your wing’s idea, you felt safe doing. To kick up a notch he would say stuff like
you are too far apart, get closer
give him a kiss
both of you give him a kiss
If it’s a good pic, very easy for you to offer to text it to her (makes sense to use YOUR phone for this, so a good wing would ask for it before) and now you have her number.
I had the mindset that I was going to get something out of each set I opened= value no matter what! So if the girls weren’t digging me I at least got some practice, or a solid pic that I could use online. (this one is really useful for the guys who always complain in my Online Game 2.0 program that they don’t have any pictures, who aren’t yet at a level where they can get cool DHV pics easily. Just don’t put up a picture like the guys above)
It gives you an opportunity to initiate or escalate KINO – which the basic rule on KINO is as much as you can, as fast as you can, WITHOUT creeping her out. Maybe you have been doing a little touchy feely, a camera comes out and as the picture gets taken you pull her in for the kiss…and things escalate quickly from there- I know for a fact this works.
To everyone else around in the venue, posing for cool/fun pics with people, gives the impression that you are friends with them. (I cover this more in my personal coaching and have been working on a blog post about this, but you want to look from 3 different perspectives- yours, her’s, and everyone else’s). You being the center of attention for one group makes it easier to initiate conversations with others.
No one likes a crappy picture, so by HOVER HANDING you are actually ruining the picture, and non-verbally conveying that you are a giant pussy.
Instead, be like these guys at a Special Needs athletic eventLike a BOSS
I know that I have already told quite a few of you that I was locking down dates…and that ended up taking longer than I wanted.
BUT I just finalized everything with the hotel and my coaches. So we are good to go!
I wanted to plan another Project X before it gets hot out here in Phoenix, but I also wanted to give you guys enough time to book this early in advance so you can save some $$ on travel.- see how cool I am! A few guys who I have been coaching already said they were 100% in as soon as I post this, so if they follow thru, that means a couple of the 6 spots could already be taken, so if you are serious about wanting to attend, apply ASAP!!!
(this is 100% true and not just a marketing trick)
What is Project X?
It is the ultimate seminar/bootcamp. The event I always wished others would offer when I was starting out, that I wanted to offer at my old job, that I couldn’t offer until I started my own company!
A live-in, seminar, bootcamp with infield coaching, with only a handful of students and plenty of coaches, where I and the coaches teach you absolutely as much as we possibly can! Where you can ask any question you want. Only 6 students so you actually get TONS of personal attention, where you don’t have to be embarrassed about a large group hearing your story, and 5 other guys who are in the same boat that by the end will be your BROTHERS!
But before I tell you how-to, here is some more information about what Project Xwill entail-
WHERE- in the Phoenix/Tempe/Scottsdale AZ area
WHEN- (around the middle of April)
Not having it in a boring and non-personal conference room
Booking a suite and adjoining room that will be ours for training/partying/and some sleeping (no need for you to spend more $ on a hotel room)
Once you arrive in Phoenix, the hotel has a shuttle to and from the airport for FREE
During Project X, I will cover transportation- no need to rent a car
During Project X, lunch and dinner will be on me ( good shit, sushi, steaks, etc)
You will get my most up to date and powerful PUA tactics, stuff I never have publicly shared
Advanced coaching from Bravohood Brown belts
Infield training at night
ADDED Day Game
ADDED FASHION MAKEOVERS
Follow up conference coaching call afterwards, to make sure everyone is still kicking ass
ONLY 6 students (with at LEAST 3 coaches…1/2 ratio, maybe more coaches)
STILL LESS than what other NO-NAMER PUAs charge, and they don’t teach/train for as many non-stop hours, and they make YOU cover hotel and food!!!
HOW TO APPLY TO PROJECT X-
Send an email to - ProjectX@BravoPUA.com
Make the subject of the email “I want into PROJECT X“
The email MUST contain the following information (I don’t need PAGES, just a few paragraphs max)
Name (real name and PUA nickname)
Age (must be at least 21 years old to apply)
Cell phone number
Number of sexual partners (only FULL closes count)
Previous PUA/self help training and how long you have been into THE GAME
Why you want to attend
What you hope to gain from attending
Your biggest sticking points
A recent picture
How you heard about PROJECT X
Since we will be LIVING together the whole time, I read thru each application and hand select who will be invited to attend, to make sure they click with the other attendees, that they are 100% serious about learning, and that they are trustworthy. (unlike the other guys, MY decisions aren’t controlled by the $). This is a lot more work for me, but trust me you, if you are here you will be very thankful!
I will then go thru each email ASAP and pick the guys I think will get the most out of this and tell you how to sign up, you then will have 24 hours to do so, if I don’t hear back then I will move on to another applicant and give them the once in a lifetime opportunity to attend.
Bravohood members have been asking when the next Project X was going down…
I’ve had more coaching and 1on1′s than ever before (going to bed shortly, 3 days of 1on1 starting tomorrow) and because I put in SO much energy and time planning and running PX, I’ve been waiting until I had a break in my work schedule before I could commit to the next one.
Well that break is coming up.
I will be locking down specific dates and times shortly, then opening up the application phase again.
So if you read the reviews on my forum, the threads the guys who have previously attended have posted, (one of my favorites was DJNinja’s foursome) and want in, get ready.
I will only be accepting 6 guys again, and don’t know when I will offer then next one….
After a crushing miscarriage and divorce, I started my self improvement journey.
Shortly after, I read THE GAME, became Style's HEAD COACH at his PUA Academy, travelled the world teaching guys how to pick up women, and was written about in his follow up best seller RULES OF THE GAME.
In 2010 it was clear that what I was teaching was MORE than just Pick Up, so I started this site and have helped even more guys, on a deeper level improve their lives.
If you're ready to begin your transformation and want me to help, please visit my coaching page.