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I can’t call myself a PUA anymore

It’s time…RIP

I can’t call myself a PUA anymore.

Being a “Pick Up Artist” is only “COOL” to guys who can’t get girls.

So many other self proclaimed PUAs have given what I do a horrible name, (and rightfully so)!

I also haven’t taught how to be a “PUA” in years.

What I have done, is teach guys how to be confident and cool, how to convey that in a non-creepy way, and how to make a connection with new and old friends, in a compressed and usually semi-awkward environment.


I got into Pick UP after my divorce and a miscarriage, because I had issues with WOMEN. Then I figured out that I just had issues with PEOPLE. Only later did I figure out, that I really only had issues with MYSELF.


Before I ever got into the whole crazy world of Pick Up, I was the Director of Training at a big gun range where I wrote and taught all of the advanced firearms classes. I left and started working for a private contracting company and helped teach some pretty badass guys some cool skills.

Once I got known in the PUA world, Neil Strauss, author of THE GAME, hired and moved me to LA to work for his company, The Stylelife Academy as the Executive Coach. For years I taught men across the world, and was featured in his best selling follow up RULES OF THE GAME.

In 2010 I started because I wanted to teach guys on a deeper and more personal level. I did things different, guys have to first apply then I personally interview each of them, and only allow single digit students to all of my events. The amazing results speak for themselves! –HERE

In 2016, as a natural progression of my personal growth and my teachings, I retired BravoPUA and have started doing everything under my REAL name

This allows me to share with you the things that really made me the MAN I am today, MORE than just “Pick Up”.

I constantly examine my life, looking for areas I can improve (eg survival skills currently) and do what it takes to master them. This new site is my place to share that with you, what I think is the most important things every man should know.


It can best been summed up as-


  • How to love yourself and others.

  • How to protect yourself and your loved ones.


I have been told what I have shared with others has saved lives, helped people more than double their income, find the woman of their dreams, start the family they always dreamed about, and live the life they always wanted.

I hope you will visit my NEW SITE and some of what I share can help you!


Stephen Grosch

Above all things, BE A MAN



-this site will stay up, but the forum has already moved, as well as all of the blog posts. All of my new posts will be over on and like the LIVE Facebook Streams I have been doing, I will be doing a LOT more cool things for all of you soon!

The Warrior Creed

The Warrior Creed

by Robert L. Humphrey

“Wherever I go,
everyone is a little bit safer because I am there.

Wherever I am,
anyone in need has a friend.

Whenever I return home,
everyone is happy I am there.”



Before I got into Pick Up, when I was a firearms and tactical instructor, I put the Warrior Creed on the first page of every training manual I wrote. It resonated with me then, and even more so now.

The first part is what originally clicked. I was teaching survival skills, skills that people would hopefully NEVER need to use, but if they did need them, they would be prepared.

The 2nd part made sense because…..well anyone who knows me in real life, knows how I treat others, and also how I like to keep my good deeds private. 🙂

The last part, that was always the one that I felt I connected with the least. I wasn’t really close to my family, had a few close friends, but for the most part did my own thing. I could leave town for a week, and nobody would even know I was gone. I can remember thinking, if I died, how many people would even notice or miss me?

After I started my self improvement journey and then got into Pick Up, I learned how to connect with others on a deeper level. For the first time in my life, I actually started to think that people WOULD miss me, and that they would actually be excited to see me when I return.

Now I don’t just think that, I KNOW that!

Such a short and simple adage, which means so much

If each section doesn’t resonate with you-

  • why not?
  • what are you doing to change that?
  • what goals have you set in your life, and are you actively working on reaching them?


One of my recent goals was to eat sushi and drink sake in Japan, and as I prepare to fly there next week, I know that like always, everyone around me is safer, because I am there. No matter where I go, even if I can’t speak the language, I will make friends and have fun.

Lastly, I know that I will be missed and when I return, those I care about will be happy to see me.

-If I don’t fall in love with a Geisha girl or go to war with the Yakuza (sucks for THEM!), I should be back around the middle of the month. I will be checking my email and will get back to any customers as soon as I can throughout, but for much of this trip I will not have access to the internet. Which is exactly what I need 😀 

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From Bravo-

After being featured in RULES OF THE GAME and travelling the world working for Style as his Executive Coach, I realized something

I teach MORE than just Pick Up, I help men, on a much deeper level, become the best version of themselves so they can meet, attract, & GET the woman of their dreams! -all while NOT relying on routines and cheesy pick up lines!

If you're ready to begin your transformation and want my help, please visit my coaching page.