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What to say when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend

Location: Scottsdale Mall

Date: Jan 5th 2013

Objective: demoing direct, day game for student during 1on1

Me= “So I have a question for you, do guys ever hit on you to try and take advantage of your SWEET discount”

 
HBSales Girl= “lol, not that I can remember” :)

 
Me= “Well, it’s happening to you NOW! You are incredibly sexy and I want to get to know you better” ;)

 

HBSales Girl= ” hahahaha OMG you are crazy, I might be able to give you a discount…. but I have a boyfriend…”

 

The old “I HAVE A BOYFRIEND”.   A line that has crushed more dreams that the all the hoverboard rumors combined!

I get asked how to handle this on almost every first time Coaching Call.

So to save myself from having to explain it time and time again ;),  I am posting how I handle this here- to help all my Bravohood brothers!

 
First off you need to understand WHY she is bringing this up, which there are a few reasons she could

 

  1. She doesn’t have a boyfriend, and is trying to get you to stop hitting on her
  2. She has a serious boyfriend.
  3. She maybe has a boyfriend/ or someone she is into, and she is more attracted to him … for now

 

The first one is the worst. She is trying to be “nice” about blowing you off, which many guys take as-

“ya she was digging my shit and she wanted my D, BUTTTTTT she had a BF”

When really she was just creeped out by him and said it to get him to leave her alone. Since she didn’t check him, he didn’t think how he acted caused it, so he keeps acting the same way, and continues being creepy. (thanks GIRLS!)

If she is in a happy, committed and serious relationship, then when she says that she has a BF= she means it and is letting you know so you aren’t wasting each others time.

So then that only leave #3. Which is the one that you can play with.

Again you have to THINK about WHY she brought up that she “has a boyfriend”. Most of the time, guys aren’t as direct as me, and if they are running indirect game and she drops the BF line, then that means you were triggering the I AM HITTING ON YOU switch in her brain. So to fix that, hold back on anything that she could be picking up as an indicator of interest, throw a disqualifier out there, or change up your stack.

 

If you are running more cocky/funny direct game, like I prefer, then when I deliver my statement of intent, it make it perfectly clear what my intentions are.
- and my mindset is I would always rather be the guy who went for it and gets rejected, than the guy sitting at home, ALONE, wishing he tried

 

My joke about guys hitting on her for a discount, is something I got from Seinfeld, I use it ALL the time, and even if I don’t get the girl I can almost always get a discount!!! (and most importantly it is FUN for me to use) so that is a FREE TOP SECRET opener for you guys, that works awesome on Hired Guns- you are welcome.

 

So did I get her phone number?

 

Yes!

How I use to respond to the BF line was with something like “Great, I am not looking for a GF, I am looking for someone just to have fun with” ;)  and then I would plow.

OR

“You don’t have to convince me that other people find you attractive” -or another cocky/funny line along those lines.

But then I saw The Break Up. My brother kept telling me to watch it because of the dirty dishes scene

Gary: “Fine, I’ll help you do the damn dishes.”

Brooke: “That’s not what I want. I want you to want to do the dishes.”

Gary: “Why would I want to do dishes?”

Again Vince Vaughn delivers.

But the scene that I thought was the best was the opening scene where he hits on Jennifer Aniston at the baseball game and then when she brings up that she has (and was with) her BF- he plows like a BOSS!!!

 

 

So I modified it and that is how I followed up with HBSales Girl.

 

HBSales Girl= ” hahahaha OMG you are crazy, I might be able to give you a discount…. but I have a boyfriend…”

Me= “Are you going to marry him?

HBSales Girl= “I don’t know….I am only 23…I’m not thinking about marriage yet.

Me= “Then that is a NO!”

HBSales Girl= “no it’s NOT!”

Me= ” yes it is…because if it was a yes, you would’ve said YES, since you didn’t say yes…that means it’s a NO! ;) I am pretty awesome and we might REALLY hit it off….so you kinda owe it to yourself to see if we click.  You seem like the type of girl who is into really good beer. Have you been to Angels Trumpet Ale House yet?”

HBSales Girl= “no, but I’ve been wanting to check it out!”

Me= “you have to! It’s awesome, tons of super cool beer from all over the place, you have to look at the chalkboard out back to see what they have. So I’ll take you there and we can grab a beer, give me your number and we can go sometime this week.

HBSales Girl= “Ok, here it is (writes it down) I’m looking forward to having a few beers with you! :D”

Me= “No I said A beer…not multiple beers….Right now it is taking every ounce of self control I have not to hop over this counter and just have my way with you. I can control myself if I have ONE beer…but if I have a couple….well I can’t promise you will be safe. ;)”

HBSales Girl= “OMG!!!! You are crazy…..OK I look forward to grabbing a few beers with you ;)”

Me= ” You are a baddddd girl ;)”

We walk out of the store and my student turns to me and says. “What just happened??? She said she had a boyfriend and then a few seconds later she is giving you her number….how is that even possible”

:D

 
So that is how I handle the BF line, when it RARELY comes up (it rarely comes up because if you are awesome, many a girl who has a BF will NEVER even mention it!)

  • Remain unfazed
  • Ask if she is going to marry him – if YES, then I would stand down
  • Anything other than YES, say “then that is a NO!” with a big smile
  • Tell her that you are probably going to hit it off and that she owes it to herself to see
  • Transition right into date plans (this girl had a rocker vibe so cold read her and went the beer route, also figured that she hadn’t been to this bar yet because it was fairly new and a bit of a drive from where she worked
  • Escalated and ABCed (Always Be Closing)

 

Point about my morals= I pushed this one a bit, to show what is possible in front of my student and to show off just a little.
If a girl legit has a BF I will not pursue her. I don’t want to be the guy who breaks them up, and I don’t want to possibly START a relationship with a girl on those terms. Many times the girl will later say that she doesn’t have a BF, that he was just someone she went on a few dates with, or she just ended a relationship. In that case=

 

Game on motherfucker!

She thanks me for taking her virginity…

“I’m really lucky that my first time is with you” -a lovely, 22 year old, dancer, former virgin.

In this audio, listen to PROOF that you can be smooth with the ladies, NOT be a dirtbag, and actually have them THANK you for fucking their brains out.

 

Thank_you_from_a_virgin_BravoPUA.mp3

 

….I have a rough life, but I do it all for you guys!

;)

“NICE guys” love to try and get on their moral high horse when getting into pick up. They develop a set of beliefs about what is RIGHT and what is WRONG, either thru crappy love movies, bad advice from women, or just from their distorted imagination about what women want.

One of the most frustrating things, as a coach, is trying to break thru this….getting them to realize they don’t understand women and to drop all of their incorrect and unsubstantiated beliefs.

So while we were laying in bed after sex, and the conversation started to go down this path, I thought hearing it from a woman might help some of you- so quickly grabbed my camera! (which of course is always strategically places near my bed)

We already talked about my job and everything I do, and we also made some videos after this…further proving that she was a NAUGHTY girl just WAITING for a man to come along and make her feel safe enough to share her inner slut, which I was happy to help.

Which leads into another important lesson. The sex toy industry is already over 4 BILLION dollars a year, which is a market dominated by women (toys for women / porn for men)- how much more proof do guys need that women WANT sex!!!

Lastly the audio also proves that being 100% open and honest with your intentions can lead to some amazing experiences.

 

Isn’t it about time you learn how to be the man they are playing with themselves every night thinking about?

 

COACHING with Bravo

 

She actually contacted ME first on PoF, because of my profile which I cover in my Online Game 2.0 program

 

How awesome is that?

She hit on ME first, and then thanked me for fucking her.

 

2 lessons from dirty homeless people – that can help your game

“Holy shit, I just had to call someone and share this, I am stuck in traffic on Fairfax and there is some fat homeless lady SHITTING in the gutter!”

 

“Well….welcome to LA!”

 

Anyone who has been stuck in LA traffic knows how insane it is- and just so you guys can fully appreciate it, here is a vid I took years ago where a handicapped dude with a wonked up leg, gets around faster than me in my truck!

 

 

Now that you know clearly how bad it is, this intersection is even worse, 3 lights later and I haven’t moved an inch.

So when she pulled down her filthy purple sweat pants and just started shitting away next to the CVS, I was stuck there for all of it’s glory.

 

As she started taking care of business, I looked around at all of the people who were also witnessing this horrible, HORRIBLE sight, and to see their reactions. (I at least wanted to get something good out of this!)

People in the cars around me either didn’t even see it (great level of awareness) or they pretended like they didn’t.

Just then a small group exited the CVS and turned left, heading right towards her……finally something good was going to come of this, the guys and the girl would see it and FREAK OUT resulting in lulz

 

….at least I imagined they would

 

Slowly they got closer….and closer…UNTIL

 

The girl moved her head a few inches to her right….then shot it straight forward again as they walked past her.

 

NOTHING

DAMMIT

 

As soon as they got a few steps past the mad shitter, I saw her elbow the guy on the left, her eyes grow large and she mouthed the words

“OH MY GOD!”

They all looked over their shoulder for a second, turned around, exchanged a few words, but didn’t look back and didn’t stop walking.

 

So now one of the most horrible and disgusting sites I have ever witnessed in my life, only garnered a look and an elbow, thus resulting in me calling my friend to share it with her.

 

Afterwards it got me thinking, one of the BIGGEST fears guys have when approaching chicks is-

 

THE FEAR OF BEING WATCHED

 

  • What if people are watching me hit on her?
  • What if I get rejected in front of people?
  • What if they hear what I say?
  • etc.

Well here is some news for you

NO ONE GIVES A SHIT!

The dirty homeles lady TAKING A SHIT proved this!
There she was, shitting for the whole world to see and

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Guess what, you know how you (currently or use to) walk around in your own bubble, with your head down, missing most of what goes on in the world,  and worrying about everyone else judging you…

EVERYONE DOES THAT

and the people who don’t, don’t give a fuck about you, and they sure as fuck don’t give a shit about you walking over to a girl and hitting on her!

 

LOOK AT THAT HETROSEXUAL OVER THERE TALKING TO THAT HOT CHICK…  LETS GET HIM BOYS!!!

 

So lesson #1 is

GET RID OF THAT IRRATIONAL FEAR ABOUT BEING WATCHED, YOU AREN’T THAT BIG OF A DEAL IN THEIR WORLD

 

 

Next up is the fear of rejection

 

When was the last time a dirty bum hit you up for some spare change?

How many times has this happened in your whole life?

(hard to remember isn’t it?)

 

I have gotten pretty good with my serious face throughout the years, homeless people usually know better than to ask me. I also really HATE it when those fuckers hit me up.

Ya let me GIVE you some of my money, that I worked hard for, so you can go eat, or more likely, go get some drugs- FOR FREE!!!

=FUCK OFF

 

(but I will be honest, the last one who hit me up outside the UPS store had a dog and got 75 cents from me, using the sympathy pet card…well played you dirty bearded fuck…well played)

 

If a bum had AA or was scared of being rejected, he wouldn’t be able to eat, or score!

I usually just ignore them, but man have I heard some HORRIBLE shit said to them in my life!

So I have rejected, or flat out ignored more bums than I could even guess, but seconds later when I get in my car, I don’t give them a second thought.

EVEN if I did, all day, until I was in bed that night looking up at the ceiling, shaking a fist and screaming

 

“DAMN YOU YOU FILTHY BUM! HOW DARE YOU ASK ME FOR A QUARTER!!!!!”

 

it would have 0% effect on him and the rest of his life

I guarantee he has already forgotten about it, so the only place that it would “live on” is in my mind.

-and back to lesson #1, even if someone else saw it, they wouldn’t care either.

 

Just like us walking out of the grocery store, and we see the homeless guy start to snap into action, we kick into autopilot mode and deal with it and either blow him off, make an excuse, ignore him, or give him something.

EVERY other homeless guy before him has helped program our reaction.

So lets flip it, you approach some hottie and she blows you off.

  • EVERY other guy who has approached her had a hand her her reaction to you, so don’t take it personally.
  • 2nd, if she does blow you out, seconds later she has ALREADY FORGOTTEN about you and isn’t giving you a 2nd thought, so why are you?
  • 3rd even if she DID, all that night she kept fuming over the guy who talked to her and asked her about her opinion on something, she went home and took off her push up bra and fake eyelashes, and was looking in the mirror with bloodshot eyes full of anger towards you- you would’t even know and it has 0% effect on you.

So lesson #2 is

GET RID OF THAT POINTLESS FEAR OF REJECTION, IT’S GOING TO HAPPEN, IT DOESN’T MATTER, AND THE ONLY PLACE IT LIVES ON IS IN YOUR HEAD

-IF you let it

Project X

Like many of you after I finished reading The Game, I thought WHAT IF…

 

  • What if I could master the art of Pick Up and the skills of Attraction
  • What if I could get the balls to walk right up to a beautiful girl and talk to her
  • What if I could seduce her
  • What if I could make her a girlfriend (s)
  • What if I could finally start living the life I always dreamed about

 

The problem was, we didn’t know where to start or where to go.

Then after a little time on Google, we’d stumbled upon a site that offered us a chance to MASTER THE GAME, the only problem was a rushed together E-Book or a crappy set of DVDs isn’t going to do shit to help us in the long run!

 

(Luckily for me, I got into this years ago and did’t have to deal with as many scammers and liars as you do.)

 

But the biggest WHAT IF of them all, the one I, and pretty sure ALL of you dreamed about, was never even offered before?

 

UNTIL NOW

*fuck I feel cheesy writing that

What did we all dream being a part of, so we could not only MASTER everything I listed above, but even MORE

 

 

 

 

 

 

Project Hollywod

 

Too bad it was already LONG GONE by the time you finished reading about it.

So I had to develop my own version of it, I could rebuild it, make it stronger…faster

I used all the knowledge I have gained in my years learning THE GAME

From teaching across the world, helping THOUSAND of men, running sold out seminars and bootcamps, and working with/teaching/partying with the WHO’s WHO of OG’ers from THE GAME

Using the skills I learned before Pick Up, where I taught military and law enforcement across the United States the skills they needed to survive

From being married, going thru a divorce, and all the girls I have dated before and after

Running a yoga studio focusing on health and wellness

-I forget that I have done all that sometimes :D

 

SO I have been spending years thinking about what my DREAM program would contain

 

and now for the first time can publicly share a little bit of what I am calling

 

PROJECT X

 

It’s not a seminar

not a bootcamp

It’s BOTH

…and MORE

 

Quiet and private place to learn at- CHECK

Low student to instructor ratio- CHECK

Near bars, clubs, coffee shops, malls, busy sidewalks to practice DAY and NIGHT game- CHECK

GOOD food- CHECK

Transportation to and from the airport- CHECK

Place to sleep, after party (and use for sexy time)- CHECK

Learning from one of the TOP MASTER PUAs in The Game today- CHECK

Having me as your personal wing while in field- CHECK

Proven routines and top secret tips and tricks taught that you can use that night- CHECK

On the fly adjustments to cover exactly what you need and want, not stuff you already know- CHECK

Charging WAY less than what I could in this industry- CHECK

Money back guarantee- CHECK

TOP SECRET ALPHA MALE adventures- CHECK

 

and that is just some of it!

 

Let me summarize all of that for ya

You cover getting here and your spot in this course, and everything else is taken care of, for less than what others charge, who offer WAY less than I, and we basically live together for 3 days EATING AND BREATHING pick up and alpha-ness

 

Now the disclaimer

This might be a horrible idea, I might lose my ass doing this, maybe I test it out and it is just too much for me to handle and I never offer it again.

So what I am going to do is offer PROJECT X, ONLY ONCE, at a special discount to readers of my blog and my forum. Afterwards if the guys who are in it tell me it is even half as cool as I think it is, MAYBE I will offer it again, at the normal (still low) price.

This isn’t BS marketing spin, there is only 1 of me, I can only handle a handful of guys (since I always hold myself to the highest in professional standards), and a few of the spots are already RSVPed for guys who I have been doing long term coaching with (you can ask them about it on my forum)

So if this is something you want to make sure you hear about FIRST and want in, sign up on the upper right side of this page with your name and email address, and follow the steps, any questions post below. Once I launch this, it will be first come first serve, and only way I can do that fair is to blast it to my list at the same time. (you of course can keep checking back HERE to see if you beat me by the 10 mins it takes me to do that after I post)

After those spots are gone it will be closed.

And to give you a little more info, all I can share now is this will be happening in Phx and around 30-45 days from NOW

 

Your move

Online Game 2.0 is LIVE!!!!

I am very happy to share this with you guys.

It took a little longer than I hoped to create (it always does) but I wanted to make it as awesome as possible for you guys.

I am VERY proud of this program and can not wait for you to start experiencing just a piece of the amazing life I have.

See ya on the forum!!!

http://bravopua.com/blog/coaching/online-game-2-0/

Just added this vid. he felt like coming up to tell me he thought my presentation (a condensed version of the 2.0 program) at the 2010 PUA SUMMIT was solid, so I got a quick clip

:D

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After a crushing miscarriage and divorce, I started my self improvement journey.

Shortly after, I read THE GAME, became Style's HEAD COACH at his PUA Academy, travelled the world teaching guys how to pick up women, and was written about in his follow up best seller RULES OF THE GAME.

In 2010 it was clear that what I was teaching was MORE than just Pick Up, so I started this site and have helped even more guys, on a deeper level improve their lives.

If you're ready to begin your transformation and want me to help, please visit my coaching page.