Painful Orgasm for her....anyone have experience on this?

[Rogue4Life]

While having sex with a girl last night and having some pillow talk, she told me that the only type of Orgasms she enjoys are clitoral orgasms.

She mentioned that penetrative (or maybe G-Spot orgasms?) orgasms makes her feel very uncomfortable and can be painful. And it's not a "I'm really sensitive" pain, it's actually an unpleasant pain feeling.

Has anyone ever been with a girl that had a similar case to this?

I wonder if there is a way to make her more comfortable cumming through penetration.

I made sure there was a LOT of foreplay, kissing around her neck for at least 5 mins. Down her collar bone, working her tits for another 10 mins...kissing the inner parts of her legs etc. About 20-25 solid minutes of warm-up before I went down on her and gave her an orgasm (non-penetrative).

But still when I was inside her, she said if she were to cum, it would be painful for her. Maybe some people with experience in Tantra may have studied this, or others with a lot of experience with sex.

[Kramer]

http://www.vaginismus.com/faqs/vaginism ... vaginismus

There's links to a program of exercises on that site, which will sort your girl's problems out.

[DJNinja]

LOTS of lube. My ex was like that, no matter how wet she got, she still found vag sex unpleasant, but once we started using lube, all better!

Also, she could have a mental hangup about it, from previous bad experience. Be gentle and reassuring with her so she knows that you know what you're doing, then give her the mindblowing orgasm

I'd also pm Smoothcall or Steve P for their input & ideas regarding tantra & frame control in this situation

[Rogue4Life]

Thanks Kramer...I'll check out that link.

And surprisingly, DJ...she said lube didn't make it better and actually felt a bit weird. She was still down for sex, but mentioned that the lube feeling was't great either. I'm also thinking it could be from a bad experience.

She mentioned that her ex was very small and tried to do anal with her and was horrifyingly painful. So I'm assuming he didn't know what he was doing in the bedroom and she associates sex with her experiences thus far. Even when I had her put a pillow on the small of her back, she told me she's nvr done that before (and that's basic sex 101 knowledge for getting different angles in my opinion, lol)

Def will bring this up with Smooth when he gets back.

[SuperDave]

did you ask if she asked her gyno about that question? It may be something medical. Otherwise like DJ said Smoothcall and Steve P could help. I know Steve P is a Vagina Mechanic.

[Bay]

Here is my take:

The gurus are going to tell you how you can get any girl to have hypnotic orgasms, squirt so much you won't need a well and so on and so forth


But here's the truth

People are different. Some girls are way better w sex than others. Call it u like your toys already trained or whatever

The bottom line is spend sometime trying stuff, but way better to find a girl who Fukking rocks the bedroom

Leave the girls w boring vags to David shade...

Cos u and I know you know enough to help a chic out.

Stab another cunt and don't worry about fixing friggen vagismus...a girl has had a lifetime to figure her cunt out...maybe she should be worrying about it while u plow her ass

[Rogue4Life]

did you ask if she asked her gyno about that question?

No, haven't talked to her about that...and after hearing Smooth and Bay's advice, it's making me have a different point of view on this.

The bottom line is spend sometime trying stuff, but way better to find a girl who Fukking rocks the bedroom

Leave the girls w boring vags to David shade...

Cos u and I know you know enough to help a chic out.

Stab another cunt and don't worry about fixing friggen vagismus...a girl has had a lifetime to figure her cunt out...maybe she should be worrying about it while u plow her ass

Thanks, Bay.


I was talking to Smooth and the first thing he mentioned to me was along the lines of,

So she will still have sex with you, but you want to fix her when she hasn't even asked for your help? "

I think I subconsciously figured that she would continue to come back for more if I were the 1st guy to make her cum through penetration. But in reality, as long as I continue what I'm doing, and presenting my "best-self"...she'll be back for more.

Lesson learned on my end.

It's her own prerogative to figure out her business. If she wants help and asks me, I'll be more than happy to steer her in the direction.

Otherwise, I'll just continue what I've been doing.

-Rogue