This is a result of several guys asking me about how to do Day 2's. There's many ways, and this is just a frame work. It's long but informative for newer guys. I know there's a lot of other ways and you can skip a lot of this and go straight for the F-close, but anyway, here it is. A lot of work went into it and NSM edited it for me.
A Day 2, or D2, is the second time that you meet a girl. We call it a Day 2 rather than a date because it can be to anywhere or anytime you see her for the second time. It can be an invitation to a party, her tagging along when you go shopping, or even coming to the grocery store to buy groceries for a dinner that you will make together.
Have a plan but don’t tell the entire plan. You’ll want to have at least three places that you can bounce to. Each place should have five things in mind: DHV’ing, Comfort, Kino, Escalation and ease of transition. DHV stands for demonstrating higher value. A DHV story would be a story that demonstrates that you are a high value man and have the qualities of an alpha male. Some of the qualities of an alpha male are being a leader of men, being a provider, being a protector, being intelligent, being non-needy, the ability to act, and overall confidence
On a typical Day 2, frame the day as an “Adventure”, not a date. Say to her, I’m going on an adventure on Thursday, you should come. Telling her that you are going on an adventure and she should come is a great way to get her excited. It is also a non-needy way to ask for the date and is low pressure. Have three places in mind, but only tell her the first one. The first location should be simple. There are many reasons for this. First, you want her to feel comfortable going to this location. If after the first location, either of you isn’t enjoying the date you can leave. Tell her you’ll start the adventure at X location first to see if she can keep up, then you’ll go from there. Having several locations to bounce to will make her feel as though she’s been on several dates with you rather than just one. This will increase comfort and your chances of the f-close because she will have more shared experiences with you. Even if the F-close is not your goal, comfort will add to the emotional connection she will feel towards you.
The Day 2 plan will be to meet somewhere: my place, her place or the first location. Then we will bounce to two more locations. Then return to a seduction location for the F-close.
As soon as you see her, hug her, because kino escalation should start as soon as possible. Smell her hair and neck. Tell her she smells good, it’s primal and plays into the idea that if you are sexually compatible then you are attracted to her pheromones. You can playfully kiss her cheek or go farther depending on the girl, calibrate to the situation. If she is coming to your place, bring her inside for a minute, and then leave because it will make her more comfortable when you return. Tell her, “I have a rule, no sex on the first date, so don’t even try it.” Say this with a grin so that sex has been brought up in a playful way. This creates push-pull, and reverses common gender roles which will throws off her default societal programming.
It is better to drive together because you will have more isolation later in the date and you will have to bring her back to her car or her place. If we drive together to the coffee shop, then I use the 5 questions game or a different gambit to set the tone. The loser buys for the winner and the girl almost always loses the 5 questions game. This sets the tone that you don’t have to supplicate and that she is making an investment in the date. This will immediately set you apart from 99% of guys who try to impress the girl by buying her things (supplicating). Starting at a place that is less expensive lets her invest in me, which demonstrates that I am the prize, without making her spend a ton of money.
Remembering the five areas to keep in mind, choose a place that will allow you to best DHV yourself whenever possible. I go to a Korean bakery/ coffee shop that I know and I order in Korean. The reason I do this is that the uniqueness of the location can itself be a DHV and it allows me to tell many related DHV stories. It naturally brings up my travels, martial arts, languages, childhood aspirations, and being a martial arts school owner, etc. In doing this I am showing that I am a leader, provider, protector, traveler, etc. I have specific preplanned stories that take the girl through many emotions and show many DHV spikes. Most times, the girl will ask me questions and I simply answer them with DHV stories so that I can DHV without it coming across as bragging
You’ll want to choose a place that allows for Comfort and Kino escalation. The bakery I go to has couches and tables so you can sit next to each other. Sitting across from each other is fine, but sitting next to each other is better because it makes kino escalation easier and more natural. After getting Coffee and food, we sit down and I always do the Questions game. You can build a lot of comfort with this game and also escalate sexually.
The questions game is simply this:
Rules- You can ask anything you want, you must answer truthfully, you cannot repeat a question that the other person has asked, and the questions must all be interesting and revealing, not boring or average (the actual wording I use is no B.S. questions) like, “Where are you from? How’s the weather?”
Some possible questions to ask:
- What’s the meanest thing you’ve ever done?
-What’s the wildest thing you’ve ever done?
-What’s something you’ve always dreamed of doing but haven’t done yet?
-If you could do anything without fear of failure, what would you do?
- If you could have any super power, what would you pick and why? A playful follow up question while she is answering is to say, “Are you sure you wouldn’t abuse that and turn evil?”
- If you had an unlimited amount of time and money to take me on a trip, where would we go and what would we do?
- What’s something you’ve never told anyone else?
- What’s the craziest place you’ve had sex
-What are your sexual fantasies?
This is another place that you can have DHV stories ready. By asking her questions that you want to answer, you can tell her your story after she tells you hers. Or if there’s something you don’t want her to ask, simply ask it first. If she tries to ask you back, tease her and say she’s a bad girl and that you’re going to have to watch her. If she does it again you’ll have to spank her.
Remember that Kino is king. Whenever you can, be touching. If she laughs, playfully touch her knee or arm. If she teases a lot, playfully smack her leg or push her. When you change locations, hold your arm out for her to take it. Put your hand on the small of her back in a natural way (if it feels forced she will know it). If it’s cold, put your arm around her.
The next place you go can involve a meal or getting drinks where you continue conversation. I prefer not to eat dinner, because it costs more and takes longer. I like to go to Dave and Buster’s where I know the bar tender and immediately have rapport. The bar tender is female which gives me social proof. I introduce my date and order a Guinness which brings up DHV stories about Ireland. So the lesson here is to again choose somewhere that allows you to DHV, build comfort, etc.
Another fun thing to do on a D2 or D3 is use” Bolshevik’s Scavenger hunt” and I’ll have three lists typed out in my pocket for her to choose from. The winner gets a two minute hand massage. This can also be used in a club, bar, etc. It will show her that you are fun, have balls, and are unique from the other guys.
The rules are that you can trade one task on the list with each other, all acts must be done in front of the other person, and you can’t tell other people what you are doing or why you are doing it.
These are the lists I use:
1) Walk the entire length of the room with your hands above your head.
2) Hold a short conversation speaking in a foreign accent.
3) Insult someone.
4) Find out what the bartender ate for dinner.
5) Try on someone’s hat.
6) Find someone who knows the capital of Nebraska (it’s Lincoln).
7) Retrieve a piece of toilet paper from the bathroom and slip it into someone’s purse.
1) Find out the bartender’s name and hometown.
2) Magically pull a coin from someone's ear, then freak out saying how the hell did a coin get in there???
3) Go to the center of the dance floor and stand completely motionless for 60 seconds.
4) Give a hug to someone of the opposite sex.
5) Give a high five to three people in a row.
6) Participate in a chugging contest.
7) Kiss someone’s tattoo.
1) Try on someone’s hat.
2) Stand at the entrance and jog in place for 60 seconds.
3) Thumb wrestle someone.
4) Compliment 5 people.
5) Place one of your shoes on top of the bar.
6) Give a hug to someone of the same sex.
7) Touch the top of someone's head and tell him/her, "You're the funkiest citizen this side of the Rio Grande."
From there I take her to the game room and play air hockey, racing games, ticket games, skeeball, etc. There’s tons of opportunity to kino escalate with hi-fives, sitting next to each other in a shooting game, etc. If you want a relationship with the girl, take the tickets you win and get two matching items. Tell her that whenever she’s sad, she can look at the item and remember the fun time you had together. This is an NLP technique called anchoring. It can be done with anything, a trinket, bracelet, or whatever. Because anchoring can be very powerful, do not do this if you simply want to sleep with her but not have a relationship.
I’ve done the same thing with bowling, etc. If the girl is very high self esteem and very beautiful, then look for opportunities to tease her. If she walks funny to throw the ball, looks goofy trying to race, or whatever. Teasing should not be serious, if you are mean or hurt her feelings, you’ve ruined the D2. The point of this is to show that you are higher value and she can’t just rely on her looks. Ask qualifying questions the same way you did in the initial pickup to show her that you like her for deeper reasons. This will build her attraction toward you and give her more of a reason to have sex later on.
By the second location, if not earlier, you should kiss close. In the bar, in the car, or outside, it doesn’t matter where it just matters that you do it. Choose a second location where you can do this. Many times, if kino has been sufficiently escalated, you can skip the third bounce and go directly to the f-close. If you wait till the end of the date to kiss her for the first time, the kiss will feel forced, and there will be too much pressure built up. By kissing earlier on, you get it out of the way and allow for a natural progression towards sex, whether it be that night or on the Day3. If you wait till the end of the date then all you will get is an awkward kiss.
The third location should have the same five qualities and be more private. The reason you want it to be more private is that you should be kino escalating and sexually escalating now. A make-out should be easy if you have kino-escalated properly up to this point. I like to go to a local Korean Karaoke bar that has private rooms. They serve alcohol and food. I have a song list that I sing that is a mix of fun, serious, and sexy. It shows off my voice and sets the mood for dancing. Since it’s a closed room, it always leads to making out. Choose a third location that facilitates these aspects.
Have a McGuffin preplanned and seeded early on in the date. Mention a book, picture, pet, video, etc. Tell a great story about it. When you get back to your place, tell her she has to come in to see whatever it was you seeded. I have the book Sextrology sitting out. Your place should have several objects to DHV you. Give her a tour of the apartment making sure to point out the DHV objects, explain their importance, and let the seeded object be in the bedroom. If the buying temperature is already high, then start making out as soon as you enter the door. Deal with any LMT, rail her. Always have condoms ready because it is your responsibility to protect yourself. If you can’t use where you live as a seduction location, plan something else. Your car, a hotel, a spaceship, her place, something.
As long as you keep in mind the areas of the quality D2 any location can work. The bounce locations should be relatively close together. Every date I’ve ever been on, the girl has told me it’s the best date she’s ever had. I took a girl to the dog park and she loved it. Most guys go to a movie and sit in silence for two hours, then leave together feeling awkward. Don’t be the average guy. If you want to see her again, call her the next day. None of the locations should be overly expensive. Dress appropriately for the occasion. Don’t overdress or under dress. Remember, there are no rules, only guidelines that will give you a better chance at success but, there will be times when steps can be skipped.
Feel free to give feedback, ask questions, or tell me I suck/rock.
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