So you get her # and are really excited to text her and get eagerly wait for her response! You think, hey it's a text, and I can not text her that much! Well that is the wrong mindset to get into! Some sure signs that you may be texting her too much or she is not interested:
- Her response time is always slower than yours or she does not match what you send
- She does not catch on to your hooks
- She constantly gives you short replies ( yep, sure, lol, ect) I JUST LEARNED THIS ONE RECENTLY!
- You always initiate the text
You could have her interested if:
- She initiates the text conversations
- She responds quickly
- She answers your questions and sends little emoticons
- She takes the conversation forward by asking her own questions or initiates role playing
Basics text skills, if she stops responding, do not continue to text. take a day off or 2, then re-engage!
Always keep your conversation light going and fun...Unless you are truing to build an emotional connection, ( which should be done on the phone and not on text)
Always lead the conversation....You are a man, she wants you to be the man you are born to be! Step up and take the conversation where you want to go!
Do not always respond....Unless you are in an important text conversation, do not always be available! ( i recently learned this one too) Mix it up, and show her you have a life, and texting her is not a priority!
Set yourself apart from other guys, and do not be needy!
Ok, so on to the good stuff....What do you send her first?
DO NOT SEND THIS!!!
> Hey whats up? > It as fun meeting you , let hang!> hey its ( name) from ( bar) , what's up?
So what do you send?
- You must re-engage the emotions from your previous interaction
- You must learn to be playful, and set up the tone that will follow
- You must send her something that will make her respond!!
A simple one that most guys will ask is : he whats up, or what are you doing?
Use a little imagination and: What sorta trouble are you causing?
If you send her a text, and you get the who is this ? You must make her want to know who you are!
Send something like:
- Your Prince charming..Duh!
- ( your name}. the ridiculously unattractive guy who was boring...haha
”Ending the text.....
So if you get a short response like have a good day, sweet dreams ect... DO NOT RESPOND! By doing this simple thing, it will let her know you are not needy, and will have her waiting for your next text with excitement!
Make sure you are not putting in all the work with the texting...try and maintain a carefull balance of your texts vs hers!
OK SO ON TO THE GOOD STUFF!!!
( This is what I have learned a lot about recently)So, if you have any sort of imagination, and played a lot as a kid..This will come into beneift for you while texting a girl
Role-playing is key to starting to gaging a women's imagination, and to see how far you can take it playfully, and sexually! The more you can make her think about what fun she will have with you over the phone, the more exciting it will be in real life!
Here are just some of the ones I use to find very fun and playful:
- Husband/wife scenarios
- Travel Buddies
> I’m bored...lets go to Vegas and get married by the fattest Elvis impersonator we can find!
> You’re my new text message girlfriend for the next 5 minutes. In 5 minutes send: Aww now we’re broken up. Its not you its me. Was fun though.
In 5 more minutes send: Aww now I kinda miss you. I’ll do whatever it takes to get you back.
Make her chase you!!
When you get a simple text like guess what, make it as though you misinterpreted her text!
Her- Guess what???!!!
You- You want to get me drunk and take advantage of me!!!??? Girl you are naughty!!!
If she is the fun type, she will be feisty right back..But what this does is it allows you to tun the table son her, as she is use to the one setting the tone! use the things girls would normally use, and let her know you are not that average guy!
MAKE SURE YOU KNOW TEXTANESE!!!
Emotioncons are key to a text conversation, as it allows you to create the mood you want to set!
I could never hang out with a girl like you… haha
you are just trouble aren’t you!!? J/k“Here is a link to simple textanese: http://www.lingo2word.com/index.php.
In your conversations, do not forget to playfully tease her once in a while! An AFC would never do this! You are not one of those guys, and you must show her you are fun and playfull...
If you ask her something and she says she has work: “Come on now… you have work today huh…? Sure it isn’t mandatory community service!? A cute, yet sassy gal who’s a felon… who woulda knew!? Hahah
”she ever suggests a time to meet up (eg 6pm):
“no that's too early...dont wanna be stuck with ya that long! Let's do 6:03 haha
”Resist the urge to send a really short reply! It can give off the vibe that you do not care.
make sure you mirror her texting and are not the one putting in all the work..If you are constantly giving off long texts while only getting short replies, something is wrong and you need to fix it! Ultimately, the person writing the most in the text interaction, or talking the most on the phone is investing the most in the interaction.
Do not forget to make fun of yourself once in a while
As only someone who is completely comfortable with themselves will do so! Nicknames are key!!!! If you do not use them, then start as they are a powerful arsenal in your text game! Here are the basics:
Fun: Otter pop, Rubber Ducky, Strawberry Shortcake, Girl Scout, Rainbow Trout, Rainbow Brite, Baby toe, Smurfette, Strawberry poptart, Cookie Monster
Cute: Princess Sparkles, Snugglers Mcgee, Butterfly, Luv Muffin, Lady Bug, Jelly bean, Hunny Bunny, Sugar buns, Bumble Bee, honey biscuit, Little miss pretty face
Teasing: Nerdball, Dork Fish, Sassy Pants, Pecker wood, Butterbean, Firecracker, Crazy face, Cracker pants, Midget ninja, Woman Face
Sexual: Cock Weasel, Cum Smuggler, Sex Kitten, Sex puppet, Wiener warmer, Penis pocket, Penis puppet, Sultry temptress
BE VERY CAREFUL WHEN SENDING THESE^^ MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GETTING YOURSELF INTO!!!
Asking her out via text.....
One of the easiest methods to use is to seed the invite... The key is to make the event you are seeding to sound incredibly fun, so that she will want to say yes!!
( Taco Tuesday scenario)
Hey nerdball, do you like tacos, margaritas, and great company?
You can also imply the invite...
I was gonna invite you to...”
“I was considering inviting you...”
“There is a possibility I might invite you...”
Steal her frame by using false DQ's and stipulations to make her feel comfortable:
So now that we r txt buddies u might be safe enough to invite to one of our next get togethers:-)”
“ A group of us r going to {event/place} 2night and I considered inviting u if u promise not to embarrass me
~”“ u r invited if u promise to bring bucket loads of fun energy”
What happens if she flakes? I say on to the next one...Because if she was truly interested she would let you know and counter offer the flaked interaction!
So if you are having an awesome text convo, and she stops responding....
- You need to go back to the basics and try to build some more attraction!
Well, that is about it...Let me know if you have any questions or comments, and happy texting!
