saw a girl im dating out with another guy having dinner

[destion]

alright, here's the deal. I've been hanging out with a girl about once a week (usually saturday night) since I'm really busy with school and don't have much time. we usually just hang out watching tv shows and fuck. she usually asks to spend more time ("come hang out", or "don't make me go back to work", shit like that) but I always turn it down.

anyway tonight i went out to dinner with some friends at a bar, and at first I didn't notice, but glanced over and noticed that she was sitting with another guy at a table having a drink. what's the appropriate reaction here? im seeing her tomorrow night as usual. should i:

a) play it cool and don't say anything
b) see if I can flip the script and mention that I had dinner with a girl and see how she reacts
c) confront her about it

I'm learning towards b. now here's the kicker - when we were just "friends" and she was dating someone else, she would still come to my place and watch a movie, or go out with me, but we wouldn't do anything (i made a move and it was then that I found out she had a bf) and eventually i stopped seeing her. i broke up with my last gf and she broke up with her bf which is why we started seeing each other.

let me know what you think,

cheers

[Bravo]

play it cool


also, post an intro thread with some details about yourself and what you hope to work on, in the pick up section

good karma, not 1st posting asking for advice/just taking value

1st posts like this look fishy

[destion]

OK. So pretty sure this relationship is done, but if anybody could shoot me a reason why they think it is that would be awesome. To followup on the post I made above:

I ended up meeting her Saturday night. We went for a walk, chatted, got back to my place, had sex, chatted some more while watching tv shows on my ipad then we went to sleep. This has been a rather short relationship (on the order of a few months, and we only see each other once a week).

However, she always texts me before she arrives, this time she didn't (I texted her "See you tonight! " early on in the day) but just showed up. Some quick background - the preceding week, wednesday was her birthday and friday she had to hand in a final paper, I left her a nice card and stuffed animal for her birthday (the card was pretty long and I used something to the effect of humor and letting her know I wanted to get to know her better, nothing overly sentimental). She sent me a few nice texts thanking me quite profusely for this. I was really busy so ended up ignoring the two texts she sent and only sent one text to arrange a meet-up for Sat. Then Friday saw her at bar with a guy. Then we met Sat.

So we're caught up now.. now yesterday (Monday) she sent me a text asking me how my project presentation went. I said good etc. played it cool, asked her how her day was. She says good, doing such and such, playing piano. Then I joke that I can't wait to make fun of her for her lack of knowledge of salsa dancing (we had talked about it on Sat., she may have been slightly offended, mentioned that she was part latin). No reply at all.

Today. Still no reply. Then around 5pm I send another text asking if she wants to go to a salsa lesson tonight (something to the effect of "Hi XXX! We need to meet soon. There's a salsa lesson @ XXX at 9pm if you want to join!"). No reply, even now. She used to ALWAYS reply to everything quickly, now it seems she's actively ignoring my texts. Based on all these signs, I consider this thoroughly over, but I would like to know where I went wrong the worst.

Any feedback helpful, thanks guys,
Destion

[S D]

Don't read into it.

She's probably with that other guy or has plans with him.

Let her be she will come crawling back if she doesn't have your validating texts and the attention that you give her. Fuck other girls in the mean time.

I mean it in all honesty though you must leave her alone and allow her to chase after you. You are the shit and welcome to the Bravohood

[S D]

surround yourself with women I read the intro and it seems like you are having trouble getting over a past r ship and are rebounding with this one which is fine but don't put ANY expectations into this. Have fun do you. School sounds important to you, so worry about that rather than some useless cunt. Well... Cunts aren't really useless

[Maestro]

And don't ever give a girl a stuffed animal ever again in your life. Unless it's your daughter.

[Bay]

Repeat what maestro said

My gf of 6 months I gave a bucket of household cleaning supplies for her birthday and drove her to a empty field for valentines day, fucked her, then took her to red lobster.

Start being a dickhead, in a good way.

[Bay]

The only cards I write say

I like you so much, I think I want to be inside you

[destion]

Thanks for the advice guys, really appreciate it. I was under the impression that one should do sweet/nice things once in a while in a relationship instead of always being a dick (the aspect of "pulling"). Is this totally off?

[Maestro]

Giving her your cock is nice. Giving her a card and a stuffed animal is gay.

Going somewhere she enjoys, etc. is nice enough. She should be chasing you, not the other way around.