I´m new to this game. Im 22 years old living in sweden although I´m of greek origin.
Im studying at the universe to become a electrical engineer! The thing I just realized that I lack social skills!
I have no problems getting to know new people, but I just cant hold on to them. I cant say that I have any real friends to hang out with. And that fucking bothers me. EVERYTHING is about social proof and social competence.
I aint no pimp but I have no big problems getting girls. But they also lose interest very fast when they realize, hey wait a minute, This guy have no friends. I think my problem is that I dont have the patience to get to now new people. I tend to lose interest in people very fast and point out the errors & faults of people and then its just a matter of time when they just stop talking to me.
Like the other week, I know these two guys from a party, since then we have been playing volleyball together a couple of times. And one of them is in my school, we say hello to each other now and then. But anyways I texted one of them and said * hey man, whats going? how about we gather the boys and go out and stuff this week* no response, none whatsoever. I talked to him on facebook a week later and he said, sorry man I forgot to answer your message and sure we can go out someday, I´ll keep in touch... bla bla bla bullshit, since then nothing. And this have repeated itself many times the last years.
The same thing happende with this girl I knew from campus, we used to work at the same pub and stuff. So we ran on each other for some weeks ago. Hi how U doing , long time no see and bla bla bla. RIght, she was like smiling and social. Then on the same day, she was online on facebook. I send her "hey you, nice seeing you today, want to see more of you over a cup of coffee" No response, just ignored me. So obviously Im not a man of value, people dont seem to respect me that match. I cant understand why, I mean a take care of myself by go working out, running, and I am a good looking guy, Not the best looking guy in the room but still.
The thing is, I have a very soft voice, its fucking pain in da ass, but I cant change it, maybe because of my voice people dont take me seriously? Anways because of the lack of real friends. I ending up spending my days watching porn and talking to girls online. This results in poor school results and boordom. I cant go out, what am I going to do by myself?
My solutions is to move to a dormroom at campus or something so I can make friends and activate myself with people. I know live home, with a fucked up family. Getting depressed over here.
Also thinking about starting pumpin iron to get bigger, maybe people respects me more?