Check this out, I posted it a few weeks ago....viewtopic.php?f=1&t=4289
For me, a big change came when I drew validation from within. If people compliment me, or insult me, I take both the same. I rank MY approval of myself above anyone elses approval of me, even if it's positive.
Approval seeking is very unattractive to women, they want a secure man that is in control. They want a leader. YOU can be that leader.
Tear up the rule sheet for what society wants and expects of you, seriously, fuck that.
Write your own one, the things YOU value, YOUR goals, things YOU believe to be important and genuine with who YOU are.
Don't be the guy that just SAYS 'i don't care what people think of me', ACTUALLY be that guy, and your attractiveness with women will sky rocket.
This isn't something you write once and you've cracked it, your goals and beliefs will evolve, become more congruent with who you are and what you want to achieve in life, the message you want to portray. You'll live with more and more integrity and have the inner glow of a man living congruently with what he believes in. That's cool.
Check this Steve Jobs video out too, very inspiring...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF8uR6Z6KLc
I watched a Arnold Schwarzenegger video today and it opened my eyes again to the single minded focus you need to have to achieve anything worthwhile.
Draw your state and validation from others and you'll always be their prisoner, design your own life, build your own awesome world and people will seek YOUR validation. And subsequently your penis.
Always wear a condom.