Breaking Porn Addiction

[Bondus]

Guys, this is probably the most socially embarrassing post I'm ever going to write but by making this public to a group of guys I trust, I hope to get the support and encouragement I need to finally kick the habit and start to life the kind of life I want.

I have since age 13 been addicted to internet porn (It taken 15 years for me to finally face up to the fact). I'm starting to realise that this behaviour has become a quick and easy substitute for the process of going out and trying to meet girls. I'm guessing this is linked to the masculine goal and quick fix solution of why bother facing potential rejection and embarrassment when you could simply sit at home and find a video clip of someone who will do whatever your sexual whim, and furthermore will not say no or make you work for it. Clearly the producers of this stuff, know a great deal about male psychology and memetics. I realise this has to stop. Ultimately this behaviour is the sexual equivalent of boosting of gym membership and then just sitting on your ass in the cafe drinking coffee and munching doughnuts. You aren’t going to improve in any way shape or form unless you get yourself out there and start to work it out.

Any advice on how I can keep myself clean?

Kind Regards

Bondus

[Bandit]

Sounds like you've already identified the problem and have realistic theories as to why you're doing it.

So.....

1) Set a schedule for going out, ban yourself from porn until you meet your "going out" goal. I.E. if you say you're going out Wednesday, no porn until you complete that goal. Next time going out is Friday, no porn Thursday or Friday till you meet that goal, etc.

2) JACK JAR!!! - LOL pay to watch your porn, $5 per sitting, set that jar up right next to your monitor, so you'll see how much you've been watching porn, use that money to GO OUT

3) Block sites from your computer, adjust filters, etc.

4) Substitute - Every time you feel the urge to watch porn, do 50 pushups and 100 situps.

The end result is that is going to be mind over matter, this is a psychological addiction not a physical one. If you can't seem to break this, you might want to look into actually seeing a therapist, if it hasn't developed into something worse, you don't want it to get there. I've seen a bunch of stories about guys that spend thousands of dollars on cam shows, downloads, etc....don't be that guy.

[Fame]

Sarge, and go out, and get laid.

Play Video Games.

Use that time on the internet to get Bravo's online game to help you get laid online.

Get a gym membership.

I subscribed to Gregplitt.com, most of my time online goes there and facebook. Pretty well spent because it motivates me to get the hell away from my computer in general and be proactive after watching.

[NOMEX]

Work out more and drink less caffeine.

[Cinema]

No reason to be embarrassed. I had a complete porn addiction as well. I just decided one day to go cold turkey. It was pretty hard the first week but then it became a lot easier. I also began masturbating way less often.
The next step is just to get out there and get laid. Do that a few times and your addiction will be gone. I went about 8 months without looking at a single porno. Now I occasionally watch one here and there but they are so less much less interesting since I get REAL pussy.

[Bravo]

this is 2 different issues

1 is porn addiction

2nd is jerking off addiction


jerking off is making it easy to loose motivation to meet women, porn makes jerking off easier


Ive even noticed a HUGE issue with I just use my imagination for jerking, it actually makes me want to go out and make it real even more

so isolate each and see which is the bigger problem, then start cutting back

[value]

I learned more about sex than I ever thought possible working for a sex toy company a few years back that was solely focused on promoting sexual health and wellness.

Several things can be achieved from cutting back on porn and jerking it actually. Not just increased drive.

The vast majority of guys actually over stimulate during masturbation. Over time this causes your nerve endings to readjust and actually deaden the tips of the nerve. Wonder why you cant cum from oral? Have trouble with sensation using even thin condoms? You are probably over stimulated and need to lay off.

It can take upwards of 6 months for those nerve endings to begin to readjust to their normal state. Sometimes you actually have to do the equivalent of nerve rehab.

Same goes for not using lube, too tight of a grip, too often, improper technique like grinding on flat surfaces.

Cutting back on any of these areas can have a significant effect on your enjoyment of sex. Not just sensation but increased arousal, sex drive, and more powerful orgasm.

Also if you have the same sensation problems ie cant cum from oral or vaginal sex you may try going and getting an adjustment done at the chiropractor. Pinched nerves in your lower back can have significant effects on your sexual enjoyment.

[Techfall]

I learned more about sex than I ever thought possible working for a sex toy company a few years back that was solely focused on promoting sexual health and wellness.

Several things can be achieved from cutting back on porn and jerking it actually. Not just increased drive.

The vast majority of guys actually over stimulate during masturbation. Over time this causes your nerve endings to readjust and actually deaden the tips of the nerve. Wonder why you cant cum from oral? Have trouble with sensation using even thin condoms? You are probably over stimulated and need to lay off.

It can take upwards of 6 months for those nerve endings to begin to readjust to their normal state. Sometimes you actually have to do the equivalent of nerve rehab.

Same goes for not using lube, too tight of a grip, too often, improper technique like grinding on flat surfaces.

Cutting back on any of these areas can have a significant effect on your enjoyment of sex. Not just sensation but increased arousal, sex drive, and more powerful orgasm.

Also if you have the same sensation problems ie cant cum from oral or vaginal sex you may try going and getting an adjustment done at the chiropractor. Pinched nerves in your lower back can have significant effects on your sexual enjoyment.

Wow. This is good info to know.

I have been working on cutting back on beating off now also. Def. gave me new ammo for why not to do it as much.

[DvF]

Its difficult, but start masterbating (if you do) with previous sexual encounters, then eventually you'll dramatically masturbate less and will help break your addiction. Atleast that is how it worked for me, that and reformatting my computer and getting new iPhones helped a lot because I didnt want Internet aids

[Mdrum]

I don't know if anyone linked this yet, but it might be worth checking out.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

I stopped porn and masturbation as much as I can. My sex drive sky rockets when I do this and is highly motivating to go out and interact with real women.