Need help with me?!

[Ofcourse]

Hey Guys!

I´m new to this game. Im 22 years old living in sweden although I´m of greek origin.
Im studying at the universe to become a electrical engineer! The thing I just realized that I lack social skills!

I have no problems getting to know new people, but I just cant hold on to them. I cant say that I have any real friends to hang out with. And that fucking bothers me. EVERYTHING is about social proof and social competence.

I aint no pimp but I have no big problems getting girls. But they also lose interest very fast when they realize, hey wait a minute, This guy have no friends. I think my problem is that I dont have the patience to get to now new people. I tend to lose interest in people very fast and point out the errors & faults of people and then its just a matter of time when they just stop talking to me.

Like the other week, I know these two guys from a party, since then we have been playing volleyball together a couple of times. And one of them is in my school, we say hello to each other now and then. But anyways I texted one of them and said * hey man, whats going? how about we gather the boys and go out and stuff this week* no response, none whatsoever. I talked to him on facebook a week later and he said, sorry man I forgot to answer your message and sure we can go out someday, I´ll keep in touch... bla bla bla bullshit, since then nothing. And this have repeated itself many times the last years.

The same thing happende with this girl I knew from campus, we used to work at the same pub and stuff. So we ran on each other for some weeks ago. Hi how U doing , long time no see and bla bla bla. RIght, she was like smiling and social. Then on the same day, she was online on facebook. I send her "hey you, nice seeing you today, want to see more of you over a cup of coffee" No response, just ignored me. So obviously Im not a man of value, people dont seem to respect me that match. I cant understand why, I mean a take care of myself by go working out, running, and I am a good looking guy, Not the best looking guy in the room but still.

The thing is, I have a very soft voice, its fucking pain in da ass, but I cant change it, maybe because of my voice people dont take me seriously? Anways because of the lack of real friends. I ending up spending my days watching porn and talking to girls online. This results in poor school results and boordom. I cant go out, what am I going to do by myself?

Solutions? anyone?

My solutions is to move to a dormroom at campus or something so I can make friends and activate myself with people. I know live home, with a fucked up family. Getting depressed over here.
Also thinking about starting pumpin iron to get bigger, maybe people respects me more?

[Techfall]

Didn't read it all but

You aren't alone. Many of us where like you. I myself have a degree in Mechanical Engineering.

You in fact CAN control the volume of your voice. A lot of what you are going to find is that everything is mental and you will have to over come these things.

Welcome.

PS. Yes a soft voice is a big deal. You definately need to work on that.

[Ofcourse]

How exactly can I improve my voice? and by not paying! Because Im a poor student with no money what so ever, I cant afford to hire a coach or whatever work with me on that. Is there sites or filmclips on the net the can be helpful?

[Aries]

Ofcourse,

Welcome to this awesome journey man You have chosen to break away from 99% of average people to become the 1% that is amazing !

Awesome bravery.

First,

How exactly can I improve my voice?

Did you even check youtube?

Vocal training tips.

Second, The Rules of the Game

Day 3 works on projecting you voice.

Third,

So obviously Im not a man of value, people dont seem to respect me that match

Stop this thinking, NOW.

I am assuming you don't see yourself as a guy who deserves respect or has value; REMEMBER. OTHERS SEE WHAT YOU SEE IN YOURSELF!

Action step: Write down 5 extremely valuable things about yourself (no material possessions unless its a private jet ) plus 5 reasons why you are respected!

(if you can't get 5 for each... start working on add new things IMMEDIATELY.)

Best o' luck,

Aries

-P.s. Do yourself a favor and get a journal where you can track your success!

[Ofcourse]

Thanx man!
I have been looking on youtube for some vocal lessons, and to be honest I´m very sceptical of them. But why not giv it a try?=

No I think I deserve to be respected and have value, but this things make me wanna give up. But its not in my nature to give up or to just accept a failure like that. Im gonna try to improve and fucking get to my goals in life.

However, can I compensate a soft voice by other meance? Like a have this goattee now, but that would not be enough compensation right? any other suggestions? Or no, the voice are supposed to be a persons identity, a weak voice = a weak person....

How important would you say a mans voice are really?

[KingOfAces]

it's very important. do the vocal training exercises in rules of the game. take a speech class. google some stuff about voice training. so much you can do to have a more dominant voice. it's not about being loud or soft. it's about being confident. and voice goes a long way with that.

a goatee has nothing to do with a loud/soft voice...