Law of attraction/my game is off

[Xerces]

Not sure where to post this...so putting it here.

Those of us who have read a fair amount of self help (most of us I assume) have heard of the law of attraction.

Basically you attract whatever you are. Also whatever your subconscious mind focuses on. Alot of this seemed very new agey and weird to me at first.

Since my involvement with the community I have improved alot. Lifestyle,self confidence,fashion,success with women etc...

However when it comes down to actually having a cool GF for any amount of time I can not make this happen. I have pulled more girls than I can remember why the fuck cant I have a cool GF? Granted she will have to be into other girls threesomes etc.. but still.

At one point in another post Bay said alot of PUA's can only operate in clubs/bars and are confused when all they pull is club rats. That hit hard I knew he was right.

So I hit day game more social stuff etc... and I managed to pull a girl who lived in a halfway house from spousal abuse(Didnt know this at first). I dropped her when she went on a first date with some other dude and he beat her ass. Talk about fucked up.

Then a manager from Journeys in the mall. Major major self worth issues and depression.

Girl from Panda express. Kid issues,abandonment etc...

POF girls with more crazyness than I can list.

So basically I am the only constant in this equation. My skills with women are more than adequate for any semi normal man. Maybe I have focused so much on leveling up I havent slowed down enough to see whats in front of me?

Perhaps now isnt the time and Im meant to keep kicking ass and at a certain point I will be satisfied?

I have four dates this weekend and two of the girls seem really cool. The others are just hot. I would like to think they arent just another number...but I know they are with my current mentality.

Helpfull responses appreciated.

Xerces

[DJNinja]

When it comes to going exclusive or semi-exclusive (MLTR), NEVER SETTLE. You know exactly the kind of girl you want to make you happy, so don't settle or compromise just to say you have a "girlfriend." That just leads to unhappiness and resentment in the long-term.

And that's why a lot of guys get their heart broken: they settle for the first girl who gives them the time of day, realise after a few months/years that they don't fully satisfy each other, then either party cheats, and we're back to square one. The lucky ones find their way to Game, and the really smart ones find their way here to the Bravohood

That's not to say that you should sleep with girls who don't completely fulfill you: keep those around as fuckbuddies or "second tier" girls. But for your primary girlfriend, she should be exactly what you want.

If you haven't written out a list of what you want in an ideal girl, do it. And as you date more girls, you'll start refining this list so you'll know ultimately the girl who you'll be happy with.

The point is: NEVER SETTLE.

But you already knew that

[Xerces]

Yes Ninja sound advice as always.

As humans I think we always think we know when we have had enough challenge. Life however thinks differently.

I do have that list and its actually my personal qualification routine. Most dont pass. Others dont even get tested for it...but they are still fun.

My standards have gone WAY up. So finding what Im looking for is no small task.

I did the whole settling thing before and never again.

[Virgil Flowers]

Also to add on to what DJ said...there have been studies done where women and men who know their deal breakers etc... drop these standards or change them when they meet a person they are extremely attracted to. Once someone realizes this you can easily catch yourself doing it...I know I have. Just some food for thought on the "don't settle" idea.

[rockstar]

I agee with everything that is said.... But, one point I want to make, alot of your post you seemed to be dissatified.... Think how far you have come...You have kicked some serious ass.... There is always something we all need to work on... Be grateful of where your at, but always pushing forward.... Everything will come, when its supposed too.... Proud of you X, and you have helped me alot....

[DJNinja]

Another thing to consider, if you're the type to want MLTRs:

You don't have to settle for just ONE girl to get all of your needs met. Having a bunch of girlfriends/fuckbuddies who each fulfill different needs can make you happier. I know a guy who has a bunch of girlfriends, and each one fulfills a different core need. All of the girls are great fucks, but some are dumb as a doornail and good only for the hot sex. Others mentally stimulate him with good conversation, others are much more fun socially and a pleasure to go out with. All of his core needs get met, just with different people instead of one individual.

[Xerces]

Thank you Rockstar you make a good point.

Im never satisfied your right. I could be the biggest pimp alive and still not be happy with my skills.

However I believe just like in mma, pickup and in life when your not struggling to get better and improve your losing ground. Guys who think they have "arrived" and are done with the struggle are rudely awakened.

Im glad I could be some help. Were all in this together. Especially at the Bravohood. Thanks again bro.

Ninja,

I get what your saying. I have had multiple girls here and there. The largest I have had my rotation was eight I beleive. All non commited varying degrees of gf's.

Not saying I wanna settle down but it would be cool to have one badass girl at my level that could take care of most of this. I have a couple canidates we will see.

What would be the best way to frame not wanting a traditional monogamous relationship?

I have been blunt about it and just said it outright. That has gone well and really bad. Othertimes by my actions they know Im not that type. Too busy etc...atleast to commit all my time to them.

I dont run darkside game. Would rather lose every girl I know than be a little AFC bitch who has to lie to keep girls and wont be a man about it.

Think this issue takes some tact. bit of a sticking point for me.

[rockstar]

I agree with alot of your points... But, I think you need to be positive with how far you have come..... Dont be complacent, always be a student, but enjoy the victories.... I'm the same way, I want the end result, but I have come along way..... DJ always has to remind me how far I have come....Hope this helps...